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If the Magic White Island of Ibiza has a spiritual ethos it is one of freedom and respect. It inspires you to celebrate your marriage in whatever manner or style you choose, traditional contemporary or alternative. Big moments in our lives are normally marked by some form of ceremony, ritual or celebration. Marriage is the one of we are most aware, but other Rites of Passage such as a Naming Ceremony or Coming of Age are equally significant milestones, markers along our life’s wonderful passage. Religious or civil, spiritual, humanist; some totally original and personal.  Everyone enjoying the freedom to celebrate in their own significant and meaningful manner. Such occasions are clearly enhanced by a professional speaker as a host and leader; a Wedding Officiant or Wedding Celebrant to conduct the Ceremony, and to act as ‘Master of the Ceremony’.  Hedley Paul - ‘HP’ - The English Wedding Celebrant on Ibiza is without question your best solution to become Mr & Mrs on Ibiza. Hedley Paul  - ‘ ‘HP’ is a professional speaker, the leading wedding celebrant on Ibiza who can officiate your marriage and blessing in a warm, confident and proficient manner. He is in close touch with the subtle energy of Ibiza, and brings to your special day the true magic of the island. He effortlessly weaves the energy and love between you into a ceremony of style, empathy and humour, making it both sincere and fun for everyone.  He brings gentle calm, settling both you and your guests, allowing all to absorb and delight in the occasion. You will enjoy and remember always your marriage of love, of two hearts and two souls, joining with your anam cara for all eternity. You will make a public proclamation of the feelings shared by two people who love each other. Hedley Paul provides you with an opportunity to enjoy a sincere and meaningful ceremony, surrounded by family and friends. There will be smiles and laughter, maybe a few tears, but.... There will great joy! Every wedding blessing ceremony he especially creates with the couple, during  personal meetings, video calls, and email discussions.  There are no ‘off the peg’ or ‘package’ ceremonies at blessings-on-ibiza.com. If you feel that a female celebrant will better empathise with your dream ceremony, Hedley Paul can introduce you to a charming lady who is an experienced and extremely competent celebrant. All you have to do is ask. Many people marry in a registry office in UK (or elsewhere).  They then hold their main celebration with family & friends on Ibiza. Working with Hedley Paul they can incorporate their own personal vows and readings in a civil wedding ceremony and Ibiza blessing.   Wedding vows and a marriage blessing on Ibiza carry so much more meaning if structured well, with beautifully crafted words led by a kind confident voice. Hedley Paul - the natural first choice for your White Island Ceremony on Ibiza. Hedley Paul happily provides the best unbiased  and free advice on many aspects of your celebration programme.  He has no aspirations to act as a wedding planner, but is happy to commend those facilities and services he regards worthy. Just step inside and meet Hedley Paul - ‘HP’ the ‘English Blesser on Ibiza’ If you are considering an Ibiza civil wedding ceremony, blessing, or wedding vow renewal contact me easily and simply by clicking the green button.

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What do past clients think of Hedley Paul? Hi Paul,  Just arrived home after a fantastic holiday in Ibiza. I just wanted to say a huge thank you for giving us such an amazing service - We absolutely loved it - thank you again. Take care, R&C  April 2018 "Hedley has recently performed a blessing for my wife and I, he has a unique talent of grabbing peoples attention right from the off and making his blessings feel so personal and interesting. I would recommend Hedley to anyone who is looking for a Blesser, he is simply one of a kind! One of the best decisions my wife and I made!!"    Oct 5, 2015   Hedley has a wonderful warm persona with great people skills . We chose Hedley to host our wedding on Ibiza. Right person, right place, right time - he most definitely was! He made our day so special. He is a dream-maker who wins a place in peoples memories and hearts. Lovely chap, very genuine and softly spoken. All good things.   Sept. 11, 2015 What type of ceremonies do you provide? Every ceremony is bespoke to the couple’s wishes and can be Spiritual, Religious (various faiths) Humanist, Buddhist, or an integrated combination of these. Who do you work for? I work directly with/for the couple who are marrying.  I do not work for wedding planners or venues, but happily with them. I am completely independent, and proudly provide a totally professional approach to weddings and blessings. My business is based in England. What about the number of guests? I am equally pleased to host ceremonies for just the couple, or for groups with over 200 guests. If more than say 40 guests, a sound system will probably be needed. How early do I need to book? As early as possible.  While there are still many days available in 2016, I am accepting bookings now for 2017, and even into 2018 so if you wish for a specific date be first to enquire/book it. Weekends and bank holidays tend to be most in demand for both me and venues. How much does a ceremony cost? Fee for a wedding and blessing ceremony:  £475 in 2017 and £525 in 2018 Fee for a renewal of vows ceremony:  £425 in 2017 and £475 in 2018 More details here. PLEASE NOTE - THERE ARE NO HIDDEN EXTRAS OR TAXES. Can I pay in other currencies? Yes - no problem, at the XEtrade exchange rate on the day. Please ask for details. How do we book you for our ceremony? If you make an enquiry about a date, (just click ‘Easy Contact Form’) I will reply, giving details of how to place the deposit in my English bank account (£100) which will secure the date for you. Once the deposit reaches my account, the date is securely yours. Can I meet you before I book you? Yes - either on Ibiza, or in the UK, but probably the easiest way is by Skype video or similar. Can we see a video of you at a ceremony? YES - videographer Gary McManus made these videos: 1  2  3 If we Skype, when will we actually meet you in person? I always meet couples a day or so before the ceremony to ‘walk through’ who-does -what- when etc. Normally I arrive at the venue at least 30 minutes before the ceremony commences, so I then meet the groom etc. while we await the bride/bridesmaids. How can I be sure I get the date I booked? Make the deposit (£100) by cash or bank transfer, or by PayPal, then the date and time is secured. Is it a race to place the deposit? Not really. When I reply to your enquiry you have first refusal on that date/time for one month. If you have not paid the deposit within the month I presume you are not intending to proceed, and it becomes freely available to everyone. Can I change the date or time that I booked? Yes - provided the new date/time is available, you can change without additional cost. Do you perform ceremonies in other places? Yes, anywhere in Europe, given my availability to travel, and the price of travel (and accommodation) for me. Outside Europe, please ask. Can we have our wedding in a church on Ibiza? With me as celebrant, No.  The churches insist on a priest hosting the ceremony which would be a full Roman Catholic Mass. The same applies to the open church in Cala Llonga. Can we hold the ceremony on a boat? Yes - no problem. Can we get married on a beach? Yes and no…..  Beaches are public places, and permission from the local town hall/administration is required.  Some are very easy to deal with, some not. Please contact me to discuss. Please remember also that almost every beach will be VERY busy during spring and summer. Many venues have beach fronts - ask them when you book. What time does the sun set? The sun sets into the sea on the WEST of the island.  For sunset times click HERE. How long is the ceremony? The average tends to be about 30-40 mins. It really does depend upon what the couple wish to be included.  The quickest ever was 12 minutes, the longest 75 minutes - in both cases it was what the couple wanted and were very happy with. Is there a standard format? No - it is up to the couple themselves.  However, I can/do provide advice and suggestions, and there tends to be a ceremony pattern as follows: Bridal procession/entry….. Welcome….. Introduction…….. Reading….. Vows of Commitment…..  Exchange of rings….. Ritual…..  Sign Certificate…… Final Blessing and farewell…. Marriage procession. Can we choose our own vows and readings? Yes of course - choose/write your own, and I am happy to work with you to make them great for your guests too. Can guests read, or sing/play music as part of the ceremony? Again - Yes of course.  I will assist where possible. Can all the guests sing - for example a song or hymn? Again, yes of course. We are different nationalities - can we have the ceremony in more than one language? Yes - that’s not a problem - in such cases I call in colleagues who provide the other languages.  Please contact me for details/discussion. What do you wear? I normally dress in all white, however if requested I am happy to dress in accord with the couple’s attire/wishes. What should we wear? Something cool!  The weather will invariably be HOT - think 35+C, so sitting/standing in full sun can be oppressive for the couple and their guests.  Beyond that advice, the day is yours, and a dream to be lived.  An Ibiza ‘white wedding’ is popular with local people - everyone wears all white, which is smart, cool, and relaxed. Can you organise chairs/food/drinks/flowers/car/photographer/venue? While I am happy to signpost you to reliable suppliers/providers I am a celebrant, not a wedding planner/organiser. I prefer to do what I do well rather than attempt to be a ‘Jack of all trades’, so the simple answer is sorry, but ‘No’.
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A typical Ibiza Wedding Ceremony:- An introduction by Ibiza’s foremost Wedding Celebrant Hedley Paul to the ‘Magic White Island’, and welcome to your marriage on Ibiza - a few little know tidbits about the Magic White Island. A little about each of you and your lives so far.  Your meeting, the magic of your love, your wish to make vows and be blessed here on Ibiza; your family and friends here with you, and now - the celebration today. Reading/poem by me or a guest (optional) Vows of commitment to each other  (led/guided by H.P.) Blessing of and then exchange of rings Your personal ritual of bonding (optional) Handfasting or other ritual (optional) Reading/poem by me or guest (optional) Blessing of the union by me on behalf of those gathered, and of absent friends. Signing and witnessing of the certificate of commitment. Conclusion words and wishes for the future. To this, add your choice of introduction and conclusion music, insert any songs, hymns, poems or additional readings. Blessings An Ibiza civil wedding and blessing is very simple but incredibly powerful.  It is a focus of offered approval and well wishing from the gathered congregation, and from those called upon by the celebrant.  This may include absent friends, the population of the world, your Almighty/Creator etc. The blessing is a moment of focus for the combined energy of love and good wishes felt by everyone present, and also those present in thought and spirit.   Blessings are a gift to be cherished because they last for ever, giving us strength when we may need it. In fact anyone can offer a blessing - ‘Bless you!’ we exclaim when someone sneezes.  A blessing can be in almost any form, some short, some long, some poetic, some simple prose. The benefit of having a celebrant to offer the blessing, is that they will help you find the words and phrases that perfectly evoke and reflect your sentiments of the occasion. To suggest or provide here, various alternative blessings, while practical, can lead to off the shelf recitations.  I believe that a meeting and discussion to discover the dream you hold in your heart is vital to a sincere and memorable blessing.  That meeting may be by video link across the world, or face to face on Ibiza or in London.  After our initial meeting I will offer you a draft of a suggested blessing to consider, and then after any adjustments we can settle on a final format. Vows In practice, wedding vows precede the blessing.  We normally offer our blessing and support to a person or a couple who have just made a sincere commitment, and called upon those congregated to witness that public commitment. A vow is a statement of intention.  A solemn promise made to the world, in front of others.  The marriage promise of  “.....’til death do us part” is a very serious public proclamation, and not be undertaken lightly. We state our intentions on a daily, almost hourly basis, but undertaking a vow before witnesses lifts it for public gaze and scrutiny. blessings-on-ibiza - for life’s big occasions which are NOT a rehearsal!  
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Renewing your wedding vows

There are many reasons why you decide to renew your wedding vows with a beautiful and romantic Ibiza Wedding Ceremony. It may be that your children have at last fled the nest, and you are once again a couple embarking a new life; or it may be that as you enter the ‘third age’ together, you wish to declare your lasting love for each other.  You may simply want to declare to the one you love, before the world....  “I love you more than ever!” There is no requirement for a ‘reason’.....  other than you both feel that you are soul mates and really, really want to.... .....there is no better place in the whole world than the magic White Island of Ibiza, or better host than Ibiza’s Master-Celebrant Hedley Paul During 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015 and again during 2016 & 2017 numerous couples return to Ibiza after just one year of marriage to renew their vows while on holiday.  No big event to organise, no pressure from family, no big expense.   “.....This time it’s just about us.......”  was their comment.   On two of those occasions, it came as a big surprise for the wife - but what a beautiful anniversary gift! Your ceremony can be structured either to be traditional and formal or more relaxed and informal, according to your wishes. You can include personal elements such as favourite songs and poetry of your choice. I am delighted to provide samples of a Renewal of Wedding Vows Ceremony if you wish. A wedding vow renewal ceremony can provide an excellent opportunity to involve your children and even grandchildren to participate, be it by way of lighting of candles, standing as witnesses, giving a reading, or whatever unique contribution they can offer.  Marriage is the creation of a family, and with children the family grows.  Some couples delight in renewing their vows and including the children in the ceremony. All hold hands and make their vows and promises to to love and cherish one another. Of course........  you may wish to simply ‘elope’ to renew your wedding vows and enjoy a very personal and very private occasion, after all it really is all about YOU! As a memento of the occasion, we give you a unique and beautiful Certificate of Commitment as a personal record of that magical moment when you renew your wedding vows.  It is for you both to sign, and we happily witness.
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Same Sex Weddings on Ibiza

Ibiza is the perfect relaxed wedding location for all couples. The island enjoys a global reputation for its liberal attitude, and it warmly welcomes those with alternative beliefs and lifestyles, and has consequently become an increasingly popular venue for hosting a wedding or partnership celebration..   The ‘Magic White Island’  has an incredibly vibrant and exciting gay community, which integrates seamlessly, creating a wonderful, friendly cosmopolitan society. Hedley Paul - ‘HP’ - has always summarised the ethos of the island in one single word..... That word you will find in many public  gardens, normally in about five languages: Respect!  By mutual exchange it makes the island such a beautiful place. Ibiza’s wedding ceremonies range from small intimate sunset occasions - often on a quiet beach, to extrovert and extravagant wedding party celebrations at an Ibiza villa or restaurant. Blessing and commitment ceremonies are for couples who wish to make a special pledge to each other, and wish to publicly declare their vows in front of family and friends, without necessarily taking the step into legal marriage - for whatever reason.
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You enjoy a marriage of love, of two hearts and two souls, joined for all eternity. You both make a public proclamation of the feelings shared by two people who love each other. Hedley Paul provides an opportunity to enjoy a sincere and meaningful ceremony, surrounded by family and friends. Every ceremony is sympathetically planned and crafted by Hedley Paul, and typically includes poems and readings, proclamations of commitment to each other, exchange of wedding rings, and a blessing. Go here for more details of structure and rituals that can be included. If you feel that a female celebrant will better empathise with your dream ceremony, Hedley Paul works with and can introduce an experienced and skilled  lady who is also totally comfortable with same-sex weddings. Please enquire. Together we create that beautiful ceremony that you will remember always, being precisely to the format and style you wish.  I would be delighted to make it very personal for you both by including your story. Your unique account of how you met and how you feel about each other. The location for the ceremony is for you to choose. It can take place in a garden, a villa,  or any venue that has special meaning or significance to the couple. As a memento of your special day, I provide a beautiful Certificate of Commitment to record the pledging of your vows. Whether you wish the ceremony to be a flamboyant ‘Pink Wedding’ occasion, creative, or simple, it should simply and truly reflect who you really are. Whatever type of ceremony you choose remember, let Hedley Paul create and host the ceremony, then - just relax and enjoy it.  That done, your day will be perfect!
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Naming & Welcoming Ceremonies
A Naming ceremony is to honour and recognise the arrival of a child into the family. It allows all those gathered moments of stillness and focus to reflect upon their responsibilities to the new arrival. It creates the opportunity to celebrate their name which gives them their identity and makes them unique. Any parent can make the arrangements to hold a Naming Ceremony, and likewise can anyone who has parental responsibility or legal guardianship of the child or children. Parents do not have to be married and can come from any cultural background, with any spiritual or religious beliefs, or with none. Many parents nowadays are neither religious or church goers, and feel that a Christening or Baptism would be inappropriate. It may be that you wish your child to make their own choices about what they believe when they are old enough to make an informed decision. Welcoming or Naming Ceremonies are a delightful and memorable way to welcome a new baby or child into your family, regardless of their age. It is also a wonderful opportunity for welcoming step children when two families come together. It can be a very moving and deeply bonding experience for everyone concerned to mark the start of their new lives together, helping bond the new family. For adopted babies or children it can also be a very loving way to welcome them into your family and to publicly declare your love, commitment, and joy at the outset of your new lives together. I will work closely with you to create a ceremony which is personal to your family. The content of your ceremony is entirely up to you and the words will be precisely as you wish. Of course I also have a selection of outline ideas, readings and poems that may be helpful to you. The ceremony may also include the nomination of Supporting Adults, Guardians or Guide- Parents, (a secular equivalent to God-Parents). They may be close friends or members of your family who wish to make a vow of commitment to guide the upbringing of your child or children. You may also like to make Parent’s Promises and acknowledge the special roles taken on by grandparents, brothers and sisters, and/or other family members. At the conclusion of the ceremony I provide a beautiful naming certificate to bear witness to the occasion, and signed by all those who have made vows recognising the important role they will play in the future development of the child. A special day to ensure your child receives your promise of unconditional love, acceptance, support and protection for their future.
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Hedley-Paul Ibiza t:  971 338 244 m: 664 689 575 England t:  020 8123 0262 m: 07909 917 120 hedleypaul@hedleypaul.com I believe that a meeting and discussion to discuss and tease out the dream you hold in your heart is a vital part in creating a sincere and memorable blessing.  That meeting can be by Skype video link across the world, or face to face on Ibiza, or the South West of England. It is also important that you like my ‘style’.  Our meeting gives you that opportunity.  Please email me, or call the local number of your choice, if I am in the other country it will transfer to me.  Easiest is that ‘green button’.
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Hedley Paul – is Ibiza’s independent wedding celebrant. Every year couples busily research the best wedding providers to find their special Ibiza Celebrant. Some use wedding planners, while many diligently search the internet themselves, which can be a daunting task.   It’s always uncertain territory, not always knowing who is genuinely trying to help, or simply trying to earn a commission for ‘signposting’. Hedley Paul is the preferred ceremony provider for several premier wedding planners and venues, and is very happy to deal directly with you, meticulously working with other specialists to deliver your perfect wedding ceremony on Ibiza.  As the foremost English wedding celebrant on Ibiza he is totally independent – working with the couple, rather than for wedding planners or designers on the most personal aspect of your wedding day. Every ceremony is individually crafted in discussion with you. Professional, confident and competent, Hedley Paul delivers beautiful weddings of the heart for loving couples. His wedding ceremonies and renewal blessings on the island of Ibiza focus on the wonder and magic of the energy and love between soul-mates. You can judge him by a few of the complimentary comments and pictures of past weddings. A father and grand-father, Hedley Paul holds dearly the ethos of providing for his clients precisely what he would expect for his children or grand- children….. The very best, in an open and honest manner! Each ceremony is carefully prepared in accord with the wishes of the couple to ensure that it is a lifetime memory.  He emphasises that it is their  ceremony and must reflect their personal wishes, values and beliefs. He believes in being fair and open.  His fees are clearly shown on the ‘Prices page on his web site, and reflect the time and effort and skills he puts into crafting and delivering a ceremony.    More about Hedley Paul Hedley Paul’s lovely wife Eileen also works with Ibiza wedding couples, designing and creating the very finest international standard wedding cakes.  Her work is published in several wedding cake magazines featuring both traditional and contemporary designs of her exquisite sugar-craft artistry. Working separately or together, they can provide the two most important components to make your special day exceptional – a beautiful and memorable ceremony and a delicious and breath-taking ibizacakes work of art. They both have extensive knowledge of venues and wedding facility providers.  Eileen has lived on Ibiza for over 30 years and ran a highly successful restaurant for many years, and consequently can offer expert advice on how to get the best for your special day, and the pitfalls to avoid.  
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Spiritual Weddings on Ibiza                     Humanist Weddings on Ibiza If you do not have a strongly held religious belief and wish to be legally married in England and Wales, you are currently obliged to marry or undertake a civil partnership ceremony in an official Registry Office, or other officially  approved venue. Some alternative ideas for your Ibiza wedding ceremony: Like many couples however, you may still want a ceremony which means something more; something personal, an alternative wedding and blessing ceremony that reflects just who you and your soul mate really are! You'll certainly not want to feel rushed. You may wish to express your vows to each other in words of your own choice. It may be formal, or thoroughly informal, and quite likely include a special part of the ceremony to be shared by more friends and family than a register office can accommodate, both in terms of space and time. You'd probably prefer also not to be limited to a licensed venue, but to hold your Spiritual Ibiza Wedding Ceremony in a place which is special to you - on a boat, in a garden, on a beach, or in your own home.  In all likelihood you’ll want to choose readings and music which mean something to you, as a couple. Choosing a Humanist blessing, or a Spiritual blessing as the alternative wedding ceremony and as a celebration of your commitment to each other may well provide the solution.  Hedley Paul’s ceremony will allow you to not only enjoy exactly where, when, and with who you celebrate, but precisely how you would like it to be. Many couples who choose to have a non-religious wedding or partnership ceremony and first complete the legal formalities to obtain a civil marriage certificate at a Register Office. However, they regard their Humanist or their Spiritual wedding or partnership ceremony as the one which truly marks their life-long commitment to each other. This is the ceremony which is special to them and their guests, at which they make their vows and during which they choose to exchange rings.  It is the marriage of the hearts of two soul mates. Commitment ceremonies are available to couples who wish to make a special testimony to each other, to publicly declare their promise in front of family and friends, without taking the step into legal marriage - for whatever reason. It is a public proclamation of the feelings shared by two people who love each other, providing them with an opportunity to have a meaningful ceremony, surrounded by family and friends. A commitment ceremony needs to be carefully planned and written, and delivered,  It should include readings, a statement or vows of commitment, the exchange of rings, and music.  It can take place in a garden, a home or any venue that is special to the couple. The ceremony should be delivered without bias of gender or religion. While not legal binding marriages, they are unquestionably a very real demonstration of commitment by the two people involved. Nothing in a Humanist or Spiritual ceremony will be offensive to those who hold a  religious faith.  It will focus sincerely and affectionately on the couple themselves.  As a memento of the occasion, we create for you a unique and beautiful Certificate of Commitment to record the renewal of your vows, which we happily witness. Together we can create a beautiful ceremony that you will never forget, and is precisely to the agenda and style you wish.  I would be delighted to make it very personal for you both, and include your story. Your unique account of how you met and how you feel about each other.   Whether you wish the ceremony to be flamboyant, creative, or simple, it should truly reflect who you are. Whatever type of ceremony you choose remember, just relax and enjoy it That done, your day will be perfect.
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There often exists some confusion between  Humanist beliefs and ceremonies, compared to Spiritualist beliefs and ceremonies.  I will endeavour to explain the differences by providing an outline of their beliefs, which naturally form the platform upon which their ceremonies and celebrations are founded. Humanism: - I have copied the following from the web site of the British Humanist Association, and I believe this provides the most accurate and unbiased presentation of the philosophy. Humanism is the view that we can make sense of the world using reason, experience and shared human values and that we can live good lives without religious or superstitious beliefs. Humanists seek to make the best of the one life we have by creating meaning and purpose for ourselves. We choose to take responsibility for our actions and work with others for the common good. Humanists do not believe in a God or gods, or any other supernatural or divine entities. Humanists do not think that the universe needs a divine power outside of itself in order to have value. We, inside the universe, determine its value. We think that other people, for example, are moral concerns, not because they are made in the image of Something Else, but because of who they are in themselves. What humanists believe Humanism is an approach to life based on humanity and reason – humanists recognise that moral values are properly founded on human nature and experience alone and that the aims of morality should be human welfare, happiness and fulfilment. Our decisions are based on the available evidence and our assessment of the outcomes of our actions, not on any dogma or sacred text. Humanism is a naturalistic view, encompassing atheism and agnosticism as responses to theistic claims, but   is an active and ethical philosophy greater than these reactions to religion. Humanists believe in individual rights and freedoms, but believe that individual responsibility, social   cooperation and mutual respect are just as important. Humanists believe that people can and will continue to find solutions to the world's problems, so that quality    of life can be improved for everyone. Humanists are positive, gaining inspiration from our lives, art and culture, and a rich natural world. Humanists believe that we have only one life, it is our responsibility to make it a good life, and to live it flourishingly. And Spiritualism......  I have created a summary from various sources on the internet.  I hope it portrays Spiritualism in a fair and just manner.  That was my intention and endeavour.
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Spiritualism - Characteristic Beliefs The central tenet of Spiritualism is the belief in and practice of mediumship which is considered to provide evidence of the continued existence of an individual's spirit or soul after death. A secondary belief is that spirits are in some way closer to God (Gods) than living humans, and that spirits themselves are capable of growth and perfection. The afterlife is therefore not a static place, but one in which spirits continue to evolve. The two beliefs: that contact with spirits is possible, and that spirits are more advanced than humans, leads to a third belief: that spirits enjoy timeless wisdom, and are consequently capable of providing profound enlightenment about moral and ethical issues, as well as about the nature of God (Gods) and the afterlife. Thus many Spiritualists will speak of their spirit guides - specific spirits, often contacted, who are relied upon for spiritual guidance. Spiritualism, although pre-dating it by several millenniums was adopted into the Christian environment and therefore Christianity retains many features in common: an essentially Spiritual moral system, a perceived belief in the concept of God, mystical pantheism, and liturgical practices such as prayer and singing.  Nevertheless, on significant points the two faiths are quite different. Spiritualists do not believe that the acts of this life lead to the assignment of each soul into an eternity of either Heaven or Hell — rather, they view the afterlife as containing many hierarchically arrayed "spheres," through which each spirit can successfully progress. Spiritualists also differ from Christians in that the Judeo-Christian Bible is not the primary source from which they derive knowledge of God and the afterlife — their own personal contacts with spheres of experience beyond what is generally understood as "material" and their own contacts with "spirits" provides that source. Many Christians and Spiritualists alike appear to hold a duality of belief, considering both ‘camps’ to have much, but not total credibility.  This appears to be a foundation for the contemporary practice of exchanging  alternative wedding vows, and receiving alternative wedding blessings. Spiritualists generally speak only of the spirits of dead humans, and do not espouse a belief in spirits of trees, springs, or other natural features. Buddhism and Hinduism share a belief with Spiritualism in the separation of the soul from the body at death, and its continued existence. Unlike traditional Spiritualism, these faiths often believe in reincarnation. Spiritualism also differs from occult movements, such as contemporary Wiccan covens, in that spirits are not contacted in order to obtain magical powers (with the single exception of obtaining power for healing). Many individual Spiritualists draw heavily from the spiritual sects of Islam (Sufi), Judaism (Kabbalah) and Buddhism. Some Spiritualists follow one distinct religion's practices while others pull elements from any or all of the three religions to formulate their beliefs. Some Spiritualists believe in the idea of the universe as the creator, and don't necessarily follow any specific religion.  Spiritualism is not readily distinguishable from the New Age movement, and like the New Age movement draws heavily from shamanism and embraces the idea of reincarnation.
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Spiritual Ceremonies for Loving Hearts Spiritual marriage is based on unconditional love. I choose to love you no matter what. I choose to recognize and use the uncomfortable things that arise in us both to fuel the growth of our souls and reunite with the Beloved on a higher level. Spiritual marriage is a commitment to grow through the trials of relationship for the goal of awakening and development of each person’s true spiritual self. Physical marriage is meant to be the training wheels for the real spiritual marriage of the soul to the BelovedThe central tenet of Spiritualism is the belief in and practice of mediumship which is considered to provide evidence of the continued existence of an individual's spirit or soul after death. A secondary belief is that spirits are in some way closer to God (Gods) than living humans, and that spirits themselves are capable of growth and perfection. The afterlife is therefore not a static place, but one in which spirits continue to evolve. The two beliefs: that contact with spirits is possible, and that spirits are more advanced than humans, leads to a third belief: that spirits enjoy timeless wisdom, and are consequently capable of providing profound enlightenment about moral and ethical issues, as well as about the nature of God (Gods) and the afterlife. Thus many Spiritualists will speak of their spirit guides - specific spirits, often contacted, who are relied upon for spiritual guidance. Spiritualism, although pre-dating it by several millenniums was adopted into the Christian environment and therefore Christianity retains many features in common: an essentially Spiritual moral system, a perceived belief in the concept of God, mystical pantheism, and liturgical practices such as prayer and singing.  Nevertheless, on significant points the two faiths are quite different. Spiritualists do not believe that the acts of this life lead to the assignment of each soul into an eternity of either Heaven or Hell — rather, they view the afterlife as containing many hierarchically arrayed "spheres," through which each spirit can successfully progress. Spiritualists also differ from Christians in that the Judeo-Christian Bible is not the primary source from which they derive knowledge of God and the afterlife — their own personal contacts with spheres of experience beyond what is generally understood as "material" and their own contacts with "spirits" provides that source. Many Christians and Spiritualists alike appear to hold a duality of belief, considering both ‘camps’ to have much, but not total credibility.  This appears to be a foundation for the contemporary practice of exchanging  alternative wedding vows, and receiving alternative wedding blessings. Spiritualists generally speak only of the spirits of dead humans, and do not espouse a belief in spirits of trees, springs, or other natural features. Buddhism and Hinduism share a belief with Spiritualism in the separation of the soul from the body at death, and its continued existence. Unlike traditional Spiritualism, these faiths often believe in reincarnation. Spiritualism also differs from occult movements, such as contemporary Wiccan covens, in that spirits are not contacted in order to obtain magical powers (with the single exception of obtaining power for healing). Many individual Spiritualists draw heavily from the spiritual sects of Islam (Sufi), Judaism (Kabbalah) and Buddhism. Some Spiritualists follow one distinct religion's practices while others pull elements from any or all of the three religions to formulate their beliefs. Some Spiritualists believe in the idea of the universe as the creator, and don't necessarily follow any specific religion.  Spiritualism is not readily distinguishable from the New Age movement, and like the New Age movement draws heavily from shamanism and embraces the idea of reincarnation.
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Christian ceremonies by Hedley Paul for loving hearts and souls.... Marriage is based on unconditional love. Christian marriage is a commitment to grow through the trials of relationship, for the goal of awakening and development of each person’s true Christian spiritual self. Spiritual marriage, although pre-dating it by several millenniums was adopted into first the Judao, and then the Christian environments and therefore Christianity retains many features in common: an essentially Spiritual moral system. While many couples seek an ‘alternative’ ceremony and blessing for their marriage, many wish to retain the ethos and tradition of a prescriptive Christian ceremony albeit outside the confines of a church building. Ibiza enjoys an incredibly beautiful and relaxed envirnment for a marriage, and where better place to revere the Creator by declaring your vows in the most magnificent venue of all - Nature’s own cathedral. This is the marriage of two hearts and two souls.  The ‘legal bit’ still needs to be held in an official Registry in the UK, but your Ibiza ceremony with Hedley Paul will remain in your memory as the ‘real wedding’ - it reflects the marriage of two hearts and two souls. Hedley Paul was baptised a Christian, and followed that faith for many many years, incorporating Old Testament beliefs and philosophies. Gradually, other faiths and philosophies became incorporated into what is his pan-culture model of belief and faith. With this background, Hedley Paul can easily enhance a standard Christian ceremony with warm and pertinent readings and verses. Hedley Paul remembers always that the ceremony is YOUR’S  and it must reflect precisely what you believe in.     
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Theists, Atheists, and Agnostics
Human nature, being what it is, attempts to categorise most things including what we believe.  Even simply ‘believing’ places you in one box, while ‘non-believing’ places you in another.  Philosophers attempt to define more clearly what we actually believe, and have established numerous ‘boxes’ into which they would place us.  It can be confusing, - it was to me, so I thought it may be helpful to explain what some of the labels on the boxes actually meant in layman terms.  The following is not intended to be a defining work of knowledge, just an attempt to simplify.  I am sure however there will be those who will say that I have over-simplified. Almost all the content is taken from, or is a précis of Wikipedia articles. Theists in the broadest sense believe in at least one deity, or supreme power or intelligence.  The term theism derives from the Greek ‘theos’ meaning god.  ‘God’ is simply a label which people apply to ‘their’ deity. Monotheism is the belief in theology that only one deity exists. The concept of "monotheism" tends to be dominated by the concept of God in the Abrahamic religions, such as Judaism, Christianity, Islam and Druze, also the Platonic concept of God, as well as the Advaita, Dvaita and Vishishtadvaita philosophies of Hinduism, although the latter philosophies admit the existence of a plethora of divine beings including less-powerful deities such as devas. Sikhism on the other hand, is a monotheistic Indian religion, in contrast to many schools of Hinduism and the other Indian religions.  The concept of monotheism in Islam and Judaism however, is far more direct, their god's oneness (’God’) being understood as absolutely unquestionable. Polytheism is the belief that there is more than one deity. In practice, polytheism is not just the belief that there are multiple gods; it usually includes belief in the existence of a specific pantheon of distinct deities.  Within polytheism there are hard and soft varieties:   Hard polytheism views the gods as being distinct and separate beings; an example of this would be the Egyptian and Greek Religions; along with certain schools of Hinduism.  Soft polytheism views the gods as being subsumed into a greater whole. Some forms of Hinduism such as Smartism/Advaita Vedanta serve as examples of soft polytheism. Pantheism: The belief that the physical universe is equivalent to a god or gods, and that there is no division between a Creator and the substance of its creation.  God does not exist, God is. Atheists, in a broad sense, reject any belief in the existence of deities. In a narrower sense, atheism is specifically the position that there are no deities. The term atheism originated from the Greek ‘atheos’, meaning "without gods"   For most people, atheism is simply the absence of belief that any deities exist. Atheism is contrasted with theism, which in its most general form is the belief that at least one deity exists.  However, atheism also figures in certain religious and spiritual belief systems, such as some forms of Buddhism that do not advocate belief in gods.  A chart showing the relationship between the definitions of weak/strong and implicit/explicit atheism. Explicit strong/positive/hard atheists (in purple on the right) assert that "at least one deity exists" is a false statement. Explicit weak/negative/soft atheists (in blue on the right) reject or eschew belief that any deities exist without actually asserting that "at least one deity exists" is a false statement. Implicit weak atheists (in blue on the left) would include people (such as young children and some agnostics) who do not believe in a deity, but have not explicitly rejected such belief. Agnostics are absent of belief, where theism and atheism require faith that there is or is not a deity or deities. An Agnostic would say, "I neither have a belief in a deity nor do I have a belief in the absence of such a deity." In his 1953 essay, What Is An Agnostic? Bertrand Russell states:  An agnostic thinks it impossible to know the truth in matters such as God and the future life with which Christianity and other religions are concerned. Or, if not impossible, at least impossible at the present time. What may seem like dissonance is the position of Agnostic theism, this is the view of those who do not claim to know of the existence of any deity, but still believe in such an existence.
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As a child, one of my greatest delights was to be enthralled  by the stories read aloud by my parents, and by my teachers. As a parent, one of the greatest pleasures was to enthral and delight my children with stories read aloud. I still have unbounded fascination for the fresh face given to a poem or story, when read by another.   A book is like a garden carried in the pocket.     Chinese Proverb Books are the quietest and most constant of friends: they are the most accessible and wisest of counsellors, and the most patient of teachers. Charles W. Eliot
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Master of Ceremony & event hosting
The role of a Master of Ceremonies on Ibiza is to work closely with an event organizer, venue management  and catering staff, and to act as facilitator for the event to ensure that everything is in place, and  runs smoothly, efficiently and on time. During the event itself, in addition to making all announcements, presiding over the receiving line,  announcing speeches and toasts, the Master of Ceremonies is a calming influence, remaining  unobtrusive, inspiring confidence, and keeping always a watchful eye for the little things that need  attention for the event to run flawlessly. I can work closely with you on the planning of your event, and will add just the right amount of  gravitas, pomp, humour and theatre. Each event is of course unique, requiring structure with adaptability. Below are examples of events which I may be able to help you make a success: Wedding Celebrations of all faiths,  Civil Partnerships, Corporate Dinners, Awards Nights, Sales  Conferences, Charity Balls, Charity Lunches, Charity Dinners, Graduation Ceremonies, Dinner  Dances, Event Openings, Anniversaries, Birthdays, Exhibitions, Product Launches
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Luxury chuppah rental on Ibiza
A chuppah/chuppa is a canopy under which a wedding ceremony, a naming ceremony, or a blessing takes place. Our luxury chuppas are high quality constructions, not simply a cheap garden gazebo or few bits of wood.  The chuppa is commonly used for weddings and blessings of all beliefs.  It also serves well for welcoming and naming ceremonies.  Of course, a chuppa in Ibiza acts as a very welcome shade for the couple and the celebrant, or or for the baby and parents, while hopefully the gathered guests have been similarly shaded. Our luxury chuppas feature ‘tented’ interiors, fully draped legs, draped pelmet and a weatherproof canopy (yes it does rain in Ibiza sometimes) together with windowed weatherproof sides if required. Ribbon decoration can easily be added, matching the bridal dress, or wedding theme.  We work closely with excellent and reliable florists, who can not only provide all your formal flowers, but will decorate the chuppa to complement your wedding theme.  Whatever style, colour or decoration you desire, we can provide the chuppah of your dreams! Should you also require chairs for your guests, we can arrange their provision, or help you find (without charge)  other providers. Chuppas on Ibiza are available independently of blessings, however if rented together with a blessing from us a significant discount is offered. History of the chuppa:- I felt it fitting to give a little background information on the chuppah, so the following is taken from Wikipedia, and may be interesting to those whose backgrounds and experiences have not acquainted them with its origins. The chuppah represents a Jewish home, as symbolized by the cloth canopy and the four poles. Just as a chuppah is open on all four sides, so the tent of Abraham was open for hospitality. Symbolically, the chuppah represents hospitality to one's guests. This "home" initially lacks furniture as a reminder that the basis of home is the people within it, not the possessions. In a spiritual sense, the covering of the chuppah represents the presence of the Creator over the covenant of marriage. The groom enters the chuppah first to represent his ownership of the home on behalf of the couple. When the bride then enters the chuppah it symbolises the groom providing her with shelter or clothing, and he thereby publicly demonstrates his new responsibilities toward her.  (Courtesy of Wikipedia) The Ibiza chuppa remains strongly symbolic as that ‘special place’ where vows are given and blessings received. So how much will it cost?
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Marrying on Ibiza.....
You can get legally married in Spain if neither of you are Spanish.  It’s complicated, tedious, but it can be done.  Depending upon your circumstances, nationality/status/faith and not forgetting financial circumstances, it may be prudent to engage a specialist and English speaking ‘Abogado’ (Spanish lawyer) to assist you. Alternatively there is a growing trend towards having a civil (Registry Office) wedding in a couple's home country, then followed by a more personal, intimate civil wedding ceremony and blessing (which has all the elements of a wedding service i.e. exchange of vows and rings) and has the great advantage that you decide the vows, music, readings etc.  As blessings can be held in a very wide variety of venues, you can choose your dream location for your special ceremony.(See ‘Marriage Blessings’ below) Civil and religious (Roman Catholic, Protestant, Jewish and Muslim) marriages can be celebrated in Spain for people over 18, making you legally married. While Spanish law appears to permit foreigners to marry in Spain, in practice it will usually be necessary for one of the couple to have been legally resident in Spain for at least two years. An application for marriage in Spain will usually involve lengthy and time-consuming paperwork, and applicants should therefore allow plenty of time. Officials will undoubtedly insist on speaking in Spanish, so be prepared with an interpreter. (also, ensure you have ALL your documents , ALL copied in triplicate) Civil and religious marriages between foreigners or a foreigner and a Spanish national are possible in Spain. Agreements between the State and the major non-Catholic faiths governing the acceptance of religious marriage ceremonies are being finalised and should be possible in the near future. Subject to the agreement of individual priests, it may be possible to have a civil marriage blessed in a non-catholic church. Roman Catholic Marriages Catholics of any country can be married legally in Spain. If one of the parties is Catholic and the other not, then marriage is still possible with a Dispensation, which must be requested from their Bishopric. Neither party can be divorced. These are matters for the local Archbishop in the area of the forthcoming marriage and, in general, a baptism certificate and a statutory declaration by the parents of the English party to the effect that their son/daughter is single, is required. Formalities do, however, vary significantly from parish to parish and the requirements should be checked well in advance with the local priest. Please note the demand for Catholic churches is extremely high, so booking must be made well in advance. Civil Marriages  Documentation:     * A birth certificate (accompanied by a sworn translation)     * Passport, Consular registration Certificate.     * Certificate of Residence. If not a permanent resident in Spain, you can sign an affidavit before a Consular Officer indicating your place of residence for the last 6 years, as well as your temporary residence in Spain.     * Consular Certificate of No-Impediment to the marriage are required.     * Divorce/Annulment Certificate of any previous marriages.     * If applicable an original death certificate Formalities may vary so applicants should check which precise documents are needed, and in what languages. A notice of intention to marry is displayed on a Consular notice board for 21 days. The notice itself is sworn by the applicant and can only be accepted if he/she has been residing for a 21 day period in the area where the notice is displayed. Where one of the parties to the forthcoming marriage is resident in the UK and will be coming to Spain for the marriage ceremony they should approach the nearest Spanish Consulate in the UK for full information. If proof of UK residence is needed, a letter can be obtained from the local Electoral Registration Office. All documents that are in English have to have the Hague Apostille on them. This is available from the following address: Legislation Office Foreign and Commonwealth Office Admiralty Office London SW1A 2LG Tel 0207 008 1111     Website The current fee for the Apostille is £19 for each document. If you go there in person this process takes about 2 days. If you send the documents by post it takes about 2 weeks and you need to send an extra £2 for postage and packing. All documents must then be translated into Spanish and presented at the relevant town hall at least 3 months before the planned wedding. It is important to bear in mind that the Spanish delight in their administrative procedures, so paperwork will invariably be lengthy and time consuming, making forward planning imperative; especially if you’re getting married in the summer. Same Gender Weddings in Spain A wedding is a celebration of the love between two people, whether it is two men, two women or a man and a woman. Spain has become the 3rd country to legalise same gender weddings and partnerships. For couples that live in Spain, or who own property and can therefore obtain their Certificate of Empadramiento it is now possible to have a civil wedding in Spain.  For more information on the paperwork required for same sex weddings please click here to see the legal requirements. For more information on gay wedding ceremonies and blessings: Whilst all effort is made to make sure that this information is up to date, we accept no responsibility whatsoever for any errors or omissions that may occur.  We advise consultation with an Abogado (Spanish lawyer).
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Life celebrations and Obituaries
A funeral or life celebration ceremony is a personal and memorable occasion.  It should be delivered with dignity and sincerity.  It is a celebration of a person’s life, and the love that lives on within their family and dear ones.  It is important for me to highlight and genuinely celebrate the person when delivering a eulogy or tribute. It is a paramount honour to be chosen.   Some people wish for a specifically religious service, while others may feel that a traditional religious ceremony is inappropriate to the subject. They may feel that something more spiritual, or spiritualist, or indeed humanist (i.e. no religion or spirituality) is appropriate. Everyone is different; I happily respect your beliefs when preparing a eulogy, or obituary that is special to you, or your loved one. I do appreciate that not everyone shares my view about the soul and its continuation after physical death, nor that a funeral although at a time of sadness is the place for joy and celebration. However, just as I respect and incorporate the differing views present at a funeral, I hope that people will do the same for me.   What I offer:-   I endeavour to prepare a ceremony which takes into account the wishes and beliefs of the deceased, as far as can be established, and any other significant people in their lives. Given our increasingly global society, I encounter families who incorporate different religious denominations, as well as people who are professed atheists and agnostics. Naturally, there are different beliefs and perspectives within families - some very traditional, others more contemporary; some wish to honour and celebrate a life that was lived to the full, others feel that a quiet and reflective approach is more appropriate. My challenge is to strike the right note.  Each ceremony  is unique, but there are some common key elements to them all. The differences lie in the extent to which the ceremony has a religious flavour (and if so which faith), is more spiritual, spiritualist, or is more humanist. Sometimes a ceremony will include elements of all of those approaches.   Here is a basic for you to consider.  I can provide as much or as little as you wish.  I can adapt to your beliefs, wishes and circumstances,  with your own thoughts and ideas incorporated.     Welcome     Outlining the purpose and nature of ceremony     A prayer (if religious) or a moment of silent dedication     A reading and / or song / hymn     The address by myself     Tribute or eulogy to the deceased - by family or friend     Other tributes (if appropriate) - by family or friend     Honouring any religious or spiritual practices where relevant.     A moment of silence     Final prayer (if religious) Bereavement counselling   Bereavement and the grieving process is very complex and stressful. The loss of a loved one can totally devastate those of us they leave behind. There is nothing odd, nor weak, about grieving. It is something that almost all of us will experience at one point in our lives. We all grieve in our own way, everyone is different and people recover at different rates.   You may be able to do it on your own, or with the invaluable help of close friends and family. What you don't need is someone telling you to ‘pull yourself together’. Some of us will need some extra help, perhaps in the form of bereavement counselling or a support group. If you do need help, then reach out for it.  You're not the first person to need external help and you will certainly not be the last. I undertook a bereavement counselling course in the attempt to gain some understanding after my father’s death.  Subsequently I worked as a volunteer counsellor at Tadworth Court Children’s Hospital.  I believe I have been able to help others.  I am not a professional counsellor, but I may be able to offer some empathy, insights and comfort.    
Some words of comfort.... Some words of comfort....
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All is well..... Death is nothing at all I have only slipped away into the next room I am I and you are you Whatever we were to each other That we are still; Call me by my old familiar name Speak to me in the easy way you always used Put no difference into your tone Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow Laugh as we always laughed At the little jokes we always enjoyed together Play, smile, think of me, pray for me Let my name be ever the household word that it always was Let it be spoken without effort Without the ghost of a shadow in it Life means all that it ever meant It is the same as it ever was There is absolute unbroken continuity What is death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind Because I am out of sight? I am waiting for you for an interval Somewhere very near Just around the corner All is well. Nothing is past; nothing is lost One brief moment and all will be as it was before How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
The reason why.... I have included this page, and this poem by Canon Henry Scott-Holland is that it gave me great comfort after the death of my father, who I loved very much. Memories are wonderful.  You do not ever forget loved ones, you simply find a place in your heart where they reside. If you are recently bereaved, please accept my loving wishes for comfort from the pain, and its easing, which comes with acceptance.
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How? That’s the question, but what is the answer? The term ‘Dream Wedding’ can be interpreted in various ways.  Hedley Paul sums it up as “The person who delivers the most memorable ceremony you have ever experienced or witnessed”.      As mentioned elsewhere on this site, your wedding ceremony on Ibiza should be one of the most beautiful, memorable and magical moments in your whole life. It is therefore vital that you find ‘the best’ celebrant, and Hedley Paul certainly fulfils your quest. Creating and delivering the ceremony is a specialist task if it is to be the life time memory you and your family deserve.  Hedley Paul takes great pride in his very personal approach to making your day special.  He firmly believes that you deserve better than an off-the-shelf ‘This is what we do’ ceremony as part of an all-inclusive wedding package. Some couples use wedding planners while many diligently search the internet themselves, which can be a daunting task.   It’s always uncertain territory, not always knowing who is genuinely trying to help, and who is simply after a commission. Hedley Paul is the preferred ceremony provider for several premier wedding planners and venues, and is very happy to deal directly with you, meticulously working with other specialists to deliver your perfect wedding ceremony on Ibiza.  As the foremost English wedding celebrant on Ibiza he is totally independent – working with the couple, rather than for wedding planners or designers on what is the most personal aspect of your wedding day. Every ceremony is individually crafted in dicussions with you. Professional, confident and competent, Hedley Paul delivers beautiful weddings of the heart for loving couples. His wedding ceremonies and renewal blessings on the island of Ibiza focus on the wonder and magic of the energy and love between soul-mates who have found their anam cara. You can judge him by a few of the complimentary comments and pictures of past weddings. A father and grand-father, Hedley Paul holds dearly the ethos of providing for his clients precisely what he would expect for his children or grand-children….. The very best, in an open and honest manner! Each ceremony is carefully prepared in accord with the wishes of the couple to ensure that it is a lifetime memory.  He emphasises that it is their ceremony and must reflect their personal wishes, values and beliefs. He believes in being fair and open.  His fees are clearly shown on the ‘Prices’ page on his web site, and reflect the time and effort and skills he puts into crafting and delivering a ceremony. Hedley Paul’s lovely wife Eileen also works with Ibiza wedding couples, designing and creating the very finest world class wedding cakes.  Her work is published in several wedding cake magazines, featuring both traditional and contemporary designs of her exquisite sugar-craft artistry. Not without good reason was she crowned ‘Ibiza’s Queen of Cakes’ by local and international press. Working separately or together, they can provide the two most important components to make your special day exceptional – a beautiful and memorable ceremony followed by a delicious and breath-taking ibizacakes work of art.
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Comment: That was the most beautiful wedding ceremony I’ve ever heard. You realise you had all the women crying... and lots of the men too!   Hi Paul. I just wanted to get in touch and say what a fabulous day we had yesterday. Christine was absolutely fabulous and we had many comments from guests on how unique and special the ceremony was. Please thank Eileen - the cake was incredible and looked beautiful and most of all tasted amazing! Thank you ahain D & D x I just wanted to say a massive thank you for our beautiful wedding vow renewal on Sunday. I'm not sure how many grooms have been taken poorly, but he was still blown away by the service and location (and the surprise of it all!) I'd recommend you to everyone and Cotton Beach Club is just stunning!! Thank you, thank you, thank you, it was everything i'd dreamed of and we're taking some incredible, precious memories away with us from our beloved Ibiza this year. Thank you to your lovely wife too for her scrummy cakes!  Xx Lee & Em Good afternoon Paul, Just wanted to say thank you for conducting our blessing on Monday 26th May  We have had the most incredible 3 weeks, it’s been such a roller coaster and we can’t believe 1, it’s over and 2 how amazing it all was. All of our guest commented about how lovely the service was and we have you to thank for that - so thank you! Keep well and look after yourself, Danny & Nealy Hi Paul, Hope you are well, just wanted to say thank you for your help and the ceremony.  Also please see the link below for the pictures that Marc took on the day.  If there is any you woud like to use please feel free. All the best, Tanya and Greg Hey Paul and Eileen, Just a quick note to say thank you so much for all your work for our wedding Eileen - the cakes were delicious and looked so fab! They were exactly how I envisaged them they looked so cute! Paul - the ceremony was fantastic and thank you for guiding us through everything so expertly and calmly when we were both pretty nervous! We truly had the best day ever, and we will never forget it, so thank you for being a part of helping make that happen. I hope the rest of the season goes well for you. Best Wishes, Claire and Nathan x Good Morning Hedley, Once again thank you for our blessing, it was perfect for us, just what we had envisaged!!  Can you please thank your wife for the cupcakes, they are amazing, I have hopefully managed to get some of the roses home intact!! Thanks again, Elaine and Les x 2013 testimonials for Hedley Paul at blessings-on-ibiza.com  Hello Hedley- I hope you're ok. A massive thank you from both of us for yesterday. It was a fab ceremony and an event  we'll never forget! Please pass on our thanks to Eileen for the cakes. We continued into the evening, although the formal wedding  breakfast turned into a plate of nachos back at Pikes as we ended our day! If it's useful for me to provide a testimonial or something please let me know. Thanks again. It was a pleasure meeting you. Best wishes Dave + Max Hi Paul, I just wanted to say another HUGE thank you for making our day so special. Can we do a testimonial for your  website or anything like that? Also, if you would like to use any of Marc's pictures then please be our guest!! We feel Ibiza (& Es Vedra in particular) is now such a spiritual place for us - I can't stop thinking about how you said  Ibiza chose us - we didn't really know why we decided on Ibiza but after hearing you say this and the fact that we  changed venues to being so close to Es Vedra, I believe this statement to be entirely true!! Thanks again Paul, you  really helped make our day surpass all expectations! Best wishes, J and H Hi Hedley Just wanted to say a huge thanks again for yesterday, your words were truly amazing and everything  thought the ceremony was beautiful, it was perfect. Thank you again J and J Hi Hedley, thank you so much for everything! everything was perfect. i posted some pictures on your facebook. the  view is so amazing, most people don't believe it's real haha! i will post up my pictures soon.  Best, P Thanks again for your guidance and awesome ceremony script. We're very happy that your name was suggested to us :)  A  & C Good afternoon Hedley, M and I just wanted to drop you an email to say a huge thank you for performing such a  beautiful ceremony for us. It was perfect! We loved the fact that you incorporated the bottle and sand into our  ceremony as we had this in mind with the letters. Many of our guests said what a lovely ceremony it was and M’s dad  commented about parts of your speech which he said he learned something new from, which we also did. We would love to leave you some feedback for your website, is this something you’d like us to do? Can I also ask if  you’re able to email over a final copy of our vows which we’d like to keep as a wedding keepsake?  Once again, many thanks for making our day so special. H & M Hi Paul.  We are really enjoying our honeymoon thank you! It was a total pleasure to have both you and Eileen with us at the ceremony and meal! I can't thank you enough not  only for a beautiful blessing but for the help and support you offered helping making it a reality. If it wasn't for you I  don't think it would have happened and myself and Mrs W will be forever thankful. From the moment we met you both  you have been helpful, warm, generous and sincere people. We hope we will remain on contact with you for many  years to come! If you are ever on the midland and need a room don't hesitate to contact us and yes our future trips to  Ibiza will now have to encompass a sunset trip to es vedra and a coffee and cake on your terrace! Take care and keep in touch! All our love, C and S  W x Hi Paul,  We just wanted to say THANK YOU for making the ceremony so lovely and "us". Everyone really appreciated your  calmness and interesting things you said. People went crazy to find some quartz... hehe  Thank you again! Sincerely, P&M Dear Paul, Just to say thank you for taking our blessing ceromony, we had the best day ever!!!! S.  :) Dear Hedley Paul We've just arrived back in the UK and I wanted to take the first opportunity to thank you again for such a beautiful  naming ceremony. Everyone commented on how much warmth, dignity and grace you brought to the ceremony and I  couldn't agree more. You welcomed A. into the world in such a kind and generous way it made her day truly magical.  We can't thank you enough. With very warm wishes N,J, and A. Our Renewal of Vows was wonderful!  Thank you so much - it was all we hoped for and more! G&S You made our day, your blessing was a blessing for sure. Thanks so much, it will be with us forever! xx (pic by eva  @ Ana Lui Photography) R and I can't thank you enough for the beautiful ceremony @Amante. We loved every minute of it, you made it so  personal and meaningful! It was, by far, the most beautiful day of both our lives! A big thank you to you and Eileen.  R&C Hi Paul,  Just a quick thank you for our wonderful ceremony on Sunday. It was absolutely perfect and exactly how we'd  always imagined our wedding ceremony to be, although we'd never thought we'd be able to achieve it. Huge thanks  and very best wishes. V&C Hi Paul,  As promised, the wedding photos's for you. Feel free to use some on your website if you wish.  Thanks again,  the ceremony was lovely, and everyone said they enjoyed it :)  P & S 2012 Hi Paul & Eileen,  Thank you so much for the wonderful Ceremony you performed for us.  It was really special and very  touching.  We can't thank you enough for making it an amazing day to remember. The cupcakes were so beautiful, everyone loved them.  K & A Hi Paul ,just to say thank you for a lovely blessing ,everything went smooth !!!!!!!!!! S&L Hi Paul,  I hope you are well and still enjoying life in Ibiza, you lucky thing!  We just wanted to say thanks for all your  work and words that you said for our ceremony, we had a wonderful day and a wonderful time in Ibiza.  It was a  blessing meeting you on the Sunday before as it calmed us down a lot and we felt much happier going into the final  evening!  I've attached a wee photo of you on the day.  E & M Hi Paul and Eileen,  Hope all is ok in Ibiza? I want to thank you both for making the day great, the service was lovely  Paul and everyone comented on the lovely relaxed feel to it, which is just what we wanted.  Everyone commented on  how scrummy the cakes were, they all went in a flash so that tells you how good tey were, unfortunately I never got  one!  Roll on next year and our return to the lovely island. K & M Good Evening Paul, Eileen,  Paul - from the moment we met you we knew that you were perfect to conduct our  ceremony. You made it so personal and interesting, and we loved all of the little touches that we'd not thought about  (the importance of a father 'giving away' his daughter, and the magic of Ibiza). Everyone commented on the service  and said how beautiful it was. You also made us both feel completely at ease (not easy on such an emotionally charged  occasion!) and we can't wait to watch it all over again on the DVD that a family friend is making for us.T & L   Eileen - what can I say? The cakes were OUT OF THIS WORLD! Tom mentioned how beautiful the cakes looked the  minute we'd walked back up the aisle! I knew (from the many samples you'd provided us with on the previous trips to  Ibiza) that they would be amazing, but they exceeded my expectations. The tiny details you'd thought about such as  matching the topper of feathers to my fan (that I had instead of flowers), the tiny hearts on the cupcakes, and the  beautiful stargazer lillies completely overwhelmed us both. On top of this - they tasted sublime! We do actually have a  chef as a close friend and he too raved about the lemon cake in particular! We took the chocolate cake back to our villa  (where we were staying with family) the day after the wedding - and actually had 2 x family birthdays the following  Friday - so the cake doubled as a birthday cake and was enjoyed by us all (not a crumb was left!).   If either of you need any testimonials or anything for your websites/blogs please DO let me know - you honestly were a  pleasure to meet (it was fate that we found you that day last year!), get to know, and to finally have at our wedding.  You both helped to make it the best day of our lives and we can't thank you enough.  T & L Hi Hedley,  Hope you guys are well and thanks again for giving us such a beautiful ceremoney and cake!!  O & L Hi Paul,  I wanted to email you to say thank you again for a beautiful wedding ceremony last Saturday and for all your  help, support & involvement - it has been lovely working with you over the past year or so - everything came together  perfectly last weekend  .........the vows of commitment we said to each other. They were just perfect.     Thanks again  for everything, really appreciate it all.  F & L Hi Paul,   Happy you have the pics and like them - of course, please feel free to use them on your site.  I will of course  recommend you.  All good. Lovely to meet you and will be in touch next time on the island.  L & J Hi Paul,   Just a little hello and a thank you email from me and C.....  Once again we would like to thank you for being  part of our special day. All the guests we have spoken to said everything about it was fantasic, and the blessing was  amazing. Also say thanks to Eileen for us, all the cakes went, but of course we have not eaten the top cake yet, we  brought it back in good condition. Here is a few photos of the cakes, I’ll forward some of us three on the roof in a bit.   M & C Hi Paul and Eileen,   Tim and I just wanted to say thank you so much for everything!  Our guests had nothing but  praise for the service and the beautiful cakes!  You really helped make the day very special!  T & S  
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Hello from the Magic White Island of Ibiza. I was privileged to enjoy my childhood in sunny Cornwall, so sun, sea, sand and fresh air have always been a delightful platform for  life. My Celtic family heritage traces back several hundred years before the arrival of Christianity.  My ancient ancestors were Druids, and I inherited a natural understanding and delight of being at one with the eternity of the cosmos. I am….  a father, a teacher, an engineer, a manager, a mentor, a foodie, a sun & sea lover. I love and am loved, I have my health and freedom to enjoy the warmth of the Sun.  What more could anyone wish for? Having spent most of my working life teaching and lecturing adults across what now seems an amazing spectrum of subjects, I now find myself in a sort of retirement,  and indulging a lifetime interest in astrology, writing blogs for various publications, and by popular demand, acting as celebrant for all sorts of occasions and events. I live and work in both Ibiza and the South West of England, and am happy to meet you in either location. The love of my life is Eileen, who is ‘ibizaeileen’ of ibizacakes.com.    We have both been blessed with various gifts;  together we enjoy creating joyous lifetime memories for others with our efforts. I respect, applaud and admire the richness of individuality, and for the vital need for individuals to be treated as such.   I find abhorrent the contemporary mentality of ‘one size fits all’ . My mission in life, a hang-over from teaching I suppose, is to provide answers and solutions that allow human beings to reach their full growth potential. I believe in the unity of the cosmos, where everything is related and connected to everything else, both physically and spiritually….  to infinity.  I do not ask that you share my beliefs, but I sincerely hope that you do believe in something. On Ibiza, many public gardens and facilities carry a request sign, the one word message in several languages……  Respect! That encapsulates my ethos.....
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Faith & belief... Hedley Paul holds beliefs which are strong, private, and based upon many and diverse experiences, both religious and spiritual. He does not represent any specific faith, and commends you to consult with your church in the first instance if you hold a strong religious belief.  He is of course very happy to support you in your own belief and faith, and he readily adapts blessings and vows to empathise fully with it.
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   My prices are all in British Pounds Sterling.                    I accept payment in Sterling or Euro.       Please take time to read our Payment policy Ceremonies Wedding Vows and Blessing with readings and/or poems. To plan with you & create the ceremony, rehearse with you, act as host and deliver the ceremony,  plus an  'Order of Ceremony' card for each guest.  It includes also a beautiful Certificate of Commitment in a presentation folder:   2017 - £475 2018 - £525

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  However, if additional services are provided, eg sound system, additional extra costs are incurred, or, if the ceremony is on Formentera, the fee will of course be higher, plus travelling expenses. Renewal of Vows To plan with you & create the ceremony, to host and guide the vows, to deliver the blessing and reading, and includes a beautiful Certificate of Commitment:- 2017 - £425 2018 - £475 (This assumes a smaller more private gathering. If it is to be a large and more elaborate ceremony, please expect the price to reflect this. Sound support services for weddings on Ibiza You may need a Roland professional PA sound system  For assembly music, procession and recession accompaniments, making your vows and commitments, plus a CD of any music provided:- 2017 - £150 (2018 - £180)  (This price is on the proviso I am providing the ceremony).   This equipment is suitable for larger ceremonies, where a microphone is needed to ensure all present can hear the readings, vows and blessings.  Two wireless and a wired microphone are included, to be used in conjunction with music input from either an iPod or CD player.  Additionally, an input from a musical instrument can be included. This system can be used where there in no available power source. Providing a small Bose sound system  For assembly music, procession and recession accompaniments, recorded tracks and accompaniments:- £25 (assumes I am providing the ceremony).  This system is suitable for small ceremonies, where a microphone is not needed.  It is battery powered, and links with 3.5mm jack cable, or by BLUETOOTH which means you can bring your music on a phone or iPad etc. Other ceremonies and readings Life Ceremony - Readings and Eulogy To plan with you & create the ceremony, rehearse with you if appropriate, act as host and deliver the ceremony, which includes an  'Order of Ceremony' card for each person:- 2017 - £425. 2018 - £475 Naming/Welcoming Ceremony - Readings and Eulogy To plan with you & create the ceremony, rehearse with you, act as host and deliver the ceremony, and includes an  'Order of Ceremony' card for each guest and certificates for the subject and immediate group:-    2017 - £425. 2018 - £475 Luxury chuppa hire To deliver/erect/dismantle a luxury white 'Chuppa' with tented interior roof:- £500   Decoration with flowers and/or ribbons etc would be additional. Readings These are by discussion, however please remember that sometimes a five minute reading can take several hours to prepare and rehearse. Please contact me so we can talk through  your wishes for your very special... e:    paul@astroibiza.com You can call the local number of your choice, if I am in the other country it will transfer to me. Ibiza (+34) England (+44) t:  971 338 244 t:  020 8123 0262 m: 664 689 575        m: 07909 917 120

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Remember to say.....
Remember to always say       'I love you'. Sometimes we forget what is most important in life.  The most important things are to love, and to be loved. That is our sole and soul purpose. When love is new, we tell each other frequently how we love them; when our children are small, we reassure them by reminding of our love for them.  As they grow older it's probably not very 'cool' to be told by Mum or Dad that they love you.  Mums and Dads too may find it slightly disconcerting to tell a teenager that they love them. At an early age I heard a story of the sadness over a  tragic unexpected parting, where there had been no chance of a fond farewell. In later life, again, I witnessed a father’s grief at having lost his adult son.  This was at a time when my children were little. I realised that such a thing could happen to me, and just how devastating it would be. I determined then that whenever we parted I would tell them I loved them.  My children are now adults, and despite a little awkwardness (on both sides) when they were teenagers, we continue to hug and kiss whenever we meet or part.  We tell each other we love them, as a parting whenever we speak. This page was prompted by my recent reading of a eulogy by a man to his beloved late wife who had suddenly and recently died.   He expressed sadness and regret at their rushed parting on that morning of her death, having not made the time to say that they loved each other. I felt so very very sad for him, not to have heard and hold that treasure of  “I love you” as her final words. So………..   Remember to always say  'I love you'.
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Wedding ceremony music
Words are powerfully evocative - phrases or a few cliché words inspire us to reach and achieve beyond even our dreams. Music too.  Music takes us to our past, to our dreams, to breathless heights yet undreamed of……. Your ceremony is witnessed not only in physical terms by those present, but emotionally too.  The energy of their love wells up and strengthens the magnetism which pulls you together as a couple.  Clothe that moment of focus with threads of music, which plucked like heartstrings evoke a focus of emotion, and passion of feeling……….  Little wonder that so many shed tears of happiness. Your ceremony can include several components of musical accompaniment.  The assembly music, played as people gather and wait in anticipation. The processional music, to accompany the bride as she walks to join her husband to be. The recessional music, to accompany the happy couple as they withdraw down the aisle. Add to that, the option of a music or song recital, either recorded or live, in place of, or in addition to one or more of the readings. The choice of music for each of these can be a challenging task.  It should of course have singular personal meaning for you. Your 'special song' maybe. The music will also take account of the family and friends present, as they too share your special moment.  Well chosen music helps to create the memorable occasion that is your special day.  If you find this choice as hard as I sometimes do, please talk to me about it, maybe a fresh mind can add to the solution. If music be the food of love.......….....              Play on!
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Can   your   wedding  guests   hear   your   words   of   love ? An Ibiza wedding ceremony on a beach or in the open air is one of the delights of the island.  Being at one with nature, enjoying the sun, the blue skies, and the magnificent views will melt anyones heart.  But can your guests hear what you are saying? Nature has two sides however, and the gently crashing waves may be peaceful when you walk hand-in-hand along the sand, but when you are nervously saying the words of commitment of your vows, those waves will probably drown your voice for most of your family and friends.  In the countryside, the rustling of leaves and foliage will also muffle sound. Remember how in a church with bare walls, the sound is quite sharp due to reflected sound.  In the open air of course, there is no reflected sound to help carry our voices.  During my career years it was fascinating to note the different sound characteristics in lecture theatres and halls, and similarly in different churches.  Open air events are far more demanding acoustically that interior events. Being a wedding guest on Ibiza involves a great commitment, effort and considerable expense.  Far more than ‘popping up the road’ to the local Church or Registry.   To go to all that trouble and then not be able to hear you say those vows would be very very disappointing. Many beach weddings are held adjacent to restaurants which front onto beaches and have a sound system provides music for their guests as they dine or chill by the sea.  Having music rolling out across the sand is great, but having your vows broadcast loud and wide across the beach is not quite the same, or indeed blasting the audience of of family and friends who travelled to be with you.  Only a few venues have systems which lend themselves to wedding ceremonies, and invariably they have a dedicated set-up for ceremonies. It is for that very reason that I offer the provision of a high quality professional PA sound system which perfectly suits beach or open air events.  It is capable of addressing open air audiences of 100+ people.  Beyond that I can provide an additional amplifier. It features a four speaker system, with multiple channel inputs for up to four microphones, or musicians input in place of one or more microphone.  The microphones are all specifically chosen for their voice recognition qualities.  It additionally has inputs for iPod or CD player, allowing music of your personal choice for processions up and down the aisle.  If four mics ar required, I tend to use two wireless, and two wired units.  It is all fully operational on battery packs, and therefore is not hindered by last minute challenges of  ‘where’s the power supply? Naturally if a venue has a satisfactory systerm, mine is not needed, but sound is a detail which can be easily overlooked or even dismissed.  When selecting a venue, be sure to ask if they have a suitable sound system, and what facilities it offers.  If possible, have it demonstrated exactly as it will be provided to you.  For details of current prices of the sound systems, please look at the prices page.
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Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!! High Fidelity! All this way.... and I couldn't hear the words! Hello!! ......  I can't hear you!! I wish I could hear THEM!
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Hand-fasting

Hand Fasting - when you really do ‘Tie the Knot’ Originally a Celtic tradition, hand-fasting has been adopted into many faiths and philosophies and is practised worldwide, either fully, or as a component of another ceremony. Ibiza has an ancient and diverse heritage which readily embraces the Celtic ceremony. The betrothed gaze into one another's eyes and together make their vows and promises to each other, after which they exchange wedding rings as their tokens. The ceremony host or elder gently binds their wrists or hands together with a cord, sash or ribbon. This is the actual 'fasting together' - a red cord signifying love and passion, and knots indicating the tender bondage of their mutual commitment. Therein is based the saying, to 'tie the knot'. In this age of quickie marriage and instantaneous divorce, the ancient tradition of hand- fasting makes more sense than ever. Hand-fasting is a binding commitment between two loving persons that requires no bureaucratic licensing to begin and no lawyers to undo. To those that choose to hand-fast, the commitment is far deeper and binding as anything offered by the Registry Office. The hand-fast lasts forever until eternity, so long as love remains. Even death cannot end a hand-fasted union; there is no 'til death do us part' in the ceremony. Of course many couples undertake the legal contract of marriage as a marriage of the heads, but regard the hand-fast as the marriage of their hearts and souls. There are two levels of hand-fast: the first, traditionally a ‘bann’ was to signify a betrothal, (engagement) traditionally for 'a year and a day'. Then, if all went well and after the year-and-a-day, the two intended lovers are still commited to proceed, a second hand-fast binds the two forever in heart, mind, body and spirit - for as long as love remains. The only thing that can undo a hand-fast is a lack of love. The Setting Traditionally, the hand-fast ceremony takes place outdoors, in as natural a setting as can be found. One of the loveliest ceremonies this writer ever attended was on the rooftop of a villa on Ibiza, above the city and under the stars. It is a occasion of joyous revelry and magical merriment, which provides a wonderful reason to dress flamboyantly, and wear flowers in one's hair. The Ceremony Usually, the hand-fasting ceremony is presided over by a spiritual or family elder who acts as host, inviting the gathered guests to join in the magic of the moment, acknowledging reverence for nature and the elements. Ancient ancestors, absent friends are invited, and kindly spirits invoked. In Conclusion A hand-fast on Ibiza is one of the most delightful celebrations. Sometimes, after the ceremony, the newly-wedded couple jump over a broom, leaping together into their new life as one. Hence the term ‘Jumping the broomstick’.  Traditional 'cakes and ale' (cakes and champagne!) plus other delicious treats are shared in a wedding ‘breakfast’ which is the first meal of their new life together. Above you are the stars Below you are the stones. As time passes, remember Like a star should your love be constant, Like the earth should your love be firm. Have patience each one with the other, For storms will come, but quickly they will go. Have no fear, and let not the ways or words Of the unenlightened give you unease. For the Old Gods are with you, Now and always!   
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Hands bound for a hand-fasting... Hands bound together in love..... The best things in life can never be owned; They can only be given away,                                A Smile, a Kiss, Love...
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Sands of Eternal Unity

Although the age and origin of wedding sand ritual - sometimes called the Sands of  Eternal Unity - is shrouded in history and debate, there's no question about the clear  symbolism and evocative nature of the ritual. At blessings-on-ibiza we have several unique (to date!) features within our Sands of  Eternal Unity ritual.  We use sand from the local beach, it carries quite naturally a thin  crust of salt from Ibiza’s shores, so the subtle energy of the Magic White Island is with  you for all time. From a tray of sand harvested from the local beach, the bride and groom take a handful (or two)  and together pour the sand into a bottle or jar while a short reading by the celebrant  reminds them, the couple, and explains to the guests the symbolism of the ritual. The  celebrant then caps the container which becomes for the couple a treasured memento  and keepsake that serves as a powerful icon of their joining. Instead of the sanitized routine of never touching the sand, simply pouring some  chemically coloured sand from a  jug, we ask you to grasp the  Ibiza sand with your bare hand.  In so doing you watermark it  with your personal energy. Henceforth that sand is  hallmarked by the subtle energy  of both Ibiza and you.  You then pour together, blending the  sand as it enters the bottle. The Sands of Eternal Unity  ritual demonstrates an elegant  symbolism which is immediately  identifiable. Two sands being made one inseparable entity, just as your two souls are melded into one. The grains of  sand can never be separated. This is a strong and beautiful demonstration of the "two  becoming one”. At blessings-on-ibiza.com we are delighted to offer this beautiful ritual as part of your  ceremony with no extra charge. You can choose to have a decanter or bottle, which  you can source personally.  OR - We will provide a small bottle/jar. We are happy to source (given adequate notice) more elegant decanters etc. with  engraved leather tags hand made on Ibiza.  Naturally there is a charge for these items  and additional resourcing
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The Loving Cup is where the ‘honeymoon’ begins 

Origins of the ‘honeymoon’ In a tradition dating back to ancient times, every marriage is sealed with a toast to each other by the Bride and Groom.  The toast was traditionally made by the ancients with a Mead wine, which is made by the fermentation of honey and water.  Mead was the normal wine, and the wedding celebrations lasted for a whole Moon’s cycle (28 days) and guests consumed Mead for the duration,  Woe betide the groom if the Mead ran out!! This period of celebration became known as the ‘Honey-Moon’  or honeymoon as we know it today. Originally as a shell or a wooden bowl, then latterly a metal cup, the Loving Cup was known as a ‘Quaich’ by the Celts across Britain.   Ibiza too has an ancient history and traditions, having been ‘discovered’ by the Phoenicians over 600 years BC after which they introduced metals such as tin and copper which they traded from England. Pewter was then a common metal for making cups and plates, and being soft, was easily engraved and moulded.  The picture shows our pewter Quaich or Loving Cup.  We use it exclusively for the Wedding toast, as it carries beautiful Celtic Trinity knots and is engraved: ‘OF EARTHLY JOYS THOU ART MY CHOICE.’ Mead was traditionally made by Monks in their Monasteries as a by-product of their bee keeping activities.  The Mead liqueur we choose is an award winning ‘gold’ Mead created by Friary Vintners in Devon. blessings-on-ibiza are delighted to offer this beautiful tradition as part of your ceremony with no extra charge.  Our only reservation is that if you wish to include ALL your guests in the sharing of the Loving Cup then we ask you to cover the cost of the additional Mead consumed!
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The best things in life can never be owned; They only be given..... A Smile, a Kiss, Love...
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 Anam Cara - Soul Friend

Origins of  ‘anam cara’ In a tradition dating back to ancient times, every marriage is sealed with a ritual which symbolises the joining in marriage and the love which eternally bonds the couple This ritual uses elements from a variety of Celtic traditions. As the guests arrive, they are each given a small pebble to hold during the Wedding Ceremony. Introduction: Bride and Groom - On this wedding day we celebrate the Celtic spirit of anam cara. Anam cara is translated from the Gaelic as "soul friend". By entering in a partnership with your anam cara, you are joined in an ancient and eternal way. To the ancient peoples, the four elements of FIRE, WATER, AIR and EARTH were fundamental to their lives and to be respected and celebrated. FIRE (The bride and groom are invited to light a candle) Your lives have burned as individual flames. Let them now burn together as one. From their two candles, they light a third. Extinguishing their own candles, they give themselves to the union of marriage. WATER Before there was life, there was water. Water IS life. It sustains us, nourishes us, cleanses us, refreshes us...we are made of it. And so, drink. Drink to your love you've shared in the past, celebrate in your present, and look to in your future. The couple take turns to drink from the loving cup, filled with water poured from a pitcher filled with water. WIND The wind is the soul, the spirit, the very breath of life. Let now your life together begin with that subtle infusion of air and the touch of lips when you kiss. EARTH We must not forget the rock from which we are hewn, the very earth on which we live. However fickle and variable the ways of humankind, there lies within us all something solid, unshakeable, unmovable – like a rock. Take in your hand the pebble you were given, find within yourself that piece of sure foundation that you would share with Groom and Bride, and for a moment close your eyes. Focus now on that inner strength as though you could bundle it up in a stone. Visualize the future you wish for this couple and engrave it in stone. (A moment of silence) This is your gift to this couple. It is the Celtic Pebble Tradition. Please come forward, quietly. Bring these pebbles, made special by your love, and place them here in this bowl. (Music plays while the guests each come forward with their pebbles.) Groom & Bride, please cover these rocks with water of life... (Bride and Groom pour water over the pebbles.) The number of pebbles in this dish is the exact number of people here today to bless you on your way. They will bear unending testimony to the fact that they were here, that they esteem you as husband and and wife, and they wish the best for you that the earth can give. .
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 Mo Anam Cara - My Soul Friend 
Anam is the Gaelic word for soul, and cara the Gaelic for friend. Therefore anam cara literally means soul friend;   mo anam cara is my lifetime friend. Celtic tradition, recognises the priceless treasure of love within friendship, the awareness that souls connect and bond across time and space, throughout life and beyond bodily demise. Your anam cara is someone to whom you look as the person to share, confess and reveal the hidden intimacies in your heart. With your anam cara you can express your thoughts, your heart, to the very core of your innermost self. Your friendship with your anam cara is not simply a friendship, it is an act of respect, and of appreciation. And so, the most powerful gift you can bring to your friendship with your anam cara is your consideration and mindfulness. It is your bond to be ever present with your anam cara. It is not unusual for many people to have an anam cara of whom they are not even aware.  Their anam cara may be the individual who offers them a space of light and peace, however they may not have this person often present in their lives. This lack of sentience ‘cloaks’ the friend and often it is only through the loss of the friend’s presence, and the feelings of distance and absence that the true awareness of their anam cara is revealed. Maybe we know this tradition by the phrase: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Celtic belief tells us that: The stranger does not come accidentally; (s)he brings a particular gift and illumination. This is why the anam-cara concept is so sublime because it allows us to cross the threshold into a primeval unity of belonging. Celtic spiritual belief is that the soul radiates all about the physical body. Perception and recognition of which is referred to as a person’s “aura”. When you connect with another person, becoming completely open and trusting with that individual, your two souls begin to exchange energy. Your auras flow together;   then you have found your Anam Cara or soul friend. You have achieved your sole purpose, which is your soul purpose. The Celts believe the development of your anam cara friendship assists you in awakening your awareness of your best and truest self and helps you experience a greater joy in being with others than you know before it’s arrival. They believe too that this special communion births a new dawn as you lovingly and willingly open your life to another. You enjoy a sense of belonging you’ve never previously experienced in a deep sense of special companionship. All your needs for inner barriers, walls and shields gently crumble and fall. Your anam cara has your permission to walk, with respect and care into the deepest reaches in your inner self, the quiet and special places within you, and in so doing creates a sacred ground which you choose to share with them. Naturally, it requires tremendous courage to allow someone so close, but when a friendship is of truth and of light, and recognises its own amazing gift, there is your anam cara. In everyone there is an inordinate need for a Soul Friend. It is only in this love that you are understood, without façade or pretence. All half-truths and shallowness fall away because you can be with them as you really are sharing an indestructible bond. Only love allows this precious understanding to dawn, and where you are understood, you are ever at home. And so, when gifted with your Anam Cara you have arrived at the most sacred of places - your true HOME. Hedley Paul can provide as part of your marriage, the ancient ritual of Anam Cara which uses small stones/pebbles to powerfully bond you and your guests to your wedding day.
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Buddhist ceremonies on Ibiza

Buddhism - Typical Wedding Beliefs Weddings are not a sacred part of Buddhism and consequently weddings are more influenced by social custom than by doctrine. They are considered to be a social rather than religious occasion. The central Buddhist belief considers that life is a continuing process of change, and that individuals should always be moving towards a state of greater wisdom and awareness. The Buddha did specify that a marriage should be based upon a foundation of mutual respect, and that the couple should be equal partners. The format of the ceremony will depend on the accepted customs of the country it is performed in, and the couple's personal likes and choice. No rules have been set by Buddhism. Accordingly there are no rules regarding attire for Buddhist wedding ceremonies. However, both bride and groom needs to be aware that their dress should be respectful of this formal occasion. Typically, in the West, the bride will wear a dress and the groom a smart suit. They may choose to wear the official dress of their region or country, or sometimes opting for their own choice. Guests should simply dress respectfully. The couple may exchange rings as in Western tradition, but this isn't a necessary part of the ceremony. Following the vows, the newly-weds will give thanks by lighting candles and incense around Buddha's image. Having travelled in Thailand over many years, and with a life philosophy close to Buddhist principles, Hedley Paul’s Buddhist wedding ceremony is invariably a life changing experience for the couple. Each ceremony is created with the couple, incorporating each aspect and focus they wish to include. Some couples choose to bless their marriage by listening to monks to chant (or recorded) from sacred Buddhist texts while the proceedings are taking place. The guests and couple are then called upon to reflect on the words being spoken. A fundamental concept of Buddhism is tolerance and understanding of the cultures and traditions of the world in which you live. Consequently the celebrations following a Buddhist wedding or blessing will be sympathetic to the culture of the country or area in which the ceremony is being held. One thing they will all have in common is the desire to celebrate the commitment the couple have made. Most Eastern countries will have spent many days preparing a huge feast for all the guests, and  in the West things will be similar, with a Wedding Breakfast meal, often followed by speeches
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 Sunset wedding ...your dream..... into reality 

Ibiza is undoubtedly one of the best places on our planet to have a sunset wedding.  First of all, because our Balearic skies are virtually pollution free, people travel here  from all over the world to view the purely unobscured stellar bodies in our heavens.  Secondly, to view the Sun physically setting into the sea you must be on a Western  shore, and it’s never a very long drive to reach our Western shores, as the Sun always sets in the West.  All the Balearic  islands are relatively small so Hedley Paul’s choices for a Sunset Wedding include Cala Comte with a beautiful  horizon dotted with a few small uninhabited islands. Hacienda Na Xamena is fantastic  in late afternoon/evening - but as summer progresses beyond the Solstice on June  21st/22nd the Sun gradually sets farther West.  At Cap d’es Falco too... The  Experimental Beach Club looks towards Es Vedra. Just chill to the ambient sounds, sip  one or three of their famous cocktails.... And no, you didn’t see pink elephants, but  you surely did see  the flocks of pink Flamingoes feeding in the salt lagoons of  Salinas. Another dream turns into reality when you enjoy the sunset at Cala Tarida with a breathtaking sunset at the Cotton Beach Club. Opened only this year, it has set its pitch to provide the most exquisite of chilled dining experiences. Wedding on the roof, witnessed by the setting sun, then dining under the moon...... Of course every coin has two sides, and on the East of the island you have the Moon  Rise.   One of the most beautiful Full  Moon rises can be seen from  Amante Beach Club.   Watching from the top deck restaurant, the Full Moon rises eerily out of the sea line  horizon, casting a translucent  beam across to your seat....  The Full Moon party of a  lifetime! Ocean going ferries and cargo  ships are silhouetted against  the sky, sea, and Moon.....  Heady stuff....  And the food matches......  absolutely breathtaking! Of course, pick any Western shore and you will experience an Ibiza Sunset....  Quite simply, on any  beach you can chill together with a bottle of cava to toast the occasion!  Life can so easily be that good! It will probably be best to start your photo sessions about 1½ hours before sunset.  This gives ample time to capture many breathtaking daytime photographs with the rich  colours of deep blue ocean and powdery blue sky. The second half of our photo session  takes place at sunset when the spectacular yet drastic change of colours and mood  occurs. This allows you to get a huge variety in your photographs.
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